Are you guilty of false male feminism?
Whenever we see reports that a man has done something horrible to a woman – which, spoiler alert, is all the time – men have a habit of responding to news as clumsily as possible. For example, a male response to the #MeToo movement in 2017 was to invent the hashtag #NotAllMen.
Having heard that Harvey Weinstein had raped a number of women, these men cleared a space to let the world know that they were free from any outrage because they had not raped anyone. Which is not the most useful answer, is it? It’s like walking in the middle of a 9/11 memorial, pulling out a megaphone in the middle of all the complainers and shouting, âDon’t blame me, I don’t even like planes. You take something that is not about you and you do it for yourself.
Lately, however, I have noticed a new reaction. It achieves the same results as #NotAllMen, while being much worse: a performative male feminism.
Let me try to explain this. I was taken on a school trip once to see a Shakespeare play. It was long and boring, but the guy in front of me would hit his thigh sometimes and say, âHa! every time there was a joke. It wasn’t a good laugh. He just wanted to let the rest of the audience know that he was smart enough to understand that this was a joke. And that’s what PMF is. (continued below)
I lost count of the number of tweets I read after a tragedy saying things like âHey guys, remember sexual violence is badâ and âBrother maybe it’s time to ‘stop killing women. âThey were all written by men, but none of them were written for men. They were bold and hypocritical attempts to collect applause. Like #NotAllMen, PMFs want space to highlight that they are the good ones.
The best example of PMF I have ever seen came right before Donald Trump was elected president. The fury surrounding the recording of him bragging about how he could grab women “by the pussy” because he was famous was raging. A group of men decided to launch an initiative called “Catch It By The Brain,” “dedicated to empowering women of all ages” by selling hats and donating 10% of the proceeds to an anti-cancer campaign. intimidation. It sank, mainly because the women commented that they preferred not to be caught anywhere, but the intention was purely PMF.
This kind of response is not just limited to men. Whenever something horrible happens to a black person, the internet begins to be replete with stories reposted on Instagram about the seriousness of racism. This usually happens regardless of gender. This is the bare minimum that anyone can do, and the intention is to show people that they are not part of the problem. Call it #NotAllWhitePeople.
So what is the alternative? One way out when you find yourself in the crossfire is to say, “This is my time to listen,” but in my experience, that simply means, “This is the time for me to act. as usual until it all stops. I try to donate money to relevant charities, but it’s probably just as obnoxious. There are no easy answers. Either way, as a rule of thumb, it doesn’t hurt not to do everything aggressively about yourself sometimes.
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