Biggest dating rejections, according to a woman who’s dated 1,000 times
There is nothing more exciting for a woman than a man who knows how to push his buttons. When a man knows how to excite a woman, he can have anything he wants, well almost anything. But, for women, it seems that men are often more successful in turning them off rather than turning them on.
As a relationship coach and matchmaker, I’ve heard so many horror stories from my clients about their experiences on dates — some that even made my mouth drop to the ground. Even when I was on the dating scene, I had my fair share of experiences from men that immediately bothered me.
If you’re heading for a date this week and want to pull it off, be sure to consider the biggest hurdles below that could sabotage your chances.
Look at other women
This should be basic knowledge, but it happens too often.
Women can see when you look at someone else…no matter how subtle you think you are. If we think you are not interested in us, then we will not be interested in you.
Keep your eyes on your date and compliment them on their looks rather than satisfying your wandering eyes.
Women see it all – we know if you’ve brushed your teeth or not, taken a shower or bothered to put on some cologne. The smallest details matter when it comes to personal hygiene – they work together to help us paint a picture of your level of attractiveness. You don’t have to be the most attractive guy in the room, but if women can see that you take care of yourself, you’ll be a level above those who don’t. Your smile is what will attract women, if your teeth are yellow or dirty, you may be ruining your best asset – grab a good toothpaste, whitening kit and clean yourself up. And, for God’s sake, wash your hair! We don’t want fat with our dinner.
Men who have been raised well, are polite and careful about the language they use are much more attractive to women! It shows maturity, a level of awareness and sophistication. The best part about this disablement is that it is easy to fix. Here are some suggestions on how to improve your manners and make your date fall madly in love with you.
Your date should be your form of entertainment, not your phone… put it away!
We all have jobs – respect any workers you might encounter on your date.
Show us your level of interest by arriving early, didn’t your mom teach you that it’s rude to be late.
Ditch the sexual innuendo for a minute – make meaningful jokes.
Conversation on a date is decisive – there is nothing worse for women than an awkward silence, I can’t imagine it being pleasant for men either. We don’t care how many cars you own, how much money you make, or who you know. Most women will see this as a red flag if these topics come up on a date.
Also, stop talking about your former partners, we are not that person, not all women are the same. Ask your date questions about their life and never interrupt them in the middle of their response…it’s rude and makes you seem uninterested.
be too forward
Don’t automatically assume they want to come home with you on the first date – it can be so off-putting when a guy makes that assumption – remember, what happens will happen. If I had a dollar for every time this happened to me, I would have enough money for a lifetime Tinder Platinum membership. Also stop bragging about your bedroom prowess – men who talk but can’t walk are unattractive and turn women off.
If you want a second date, your chances are much higher with good hygiene, respect, and attention to her best interests. Simple, but so often absent from dating horror stories. Raise the bar!