Gentleman’s Guide to Having a Satisfying Virtual Connection
Having a good sex life is an underlying part of our well-being and overall quality of life. And although it is in times of mental exhaustion like these that having an active sex life might help keep our well-being in check to some extent, unfortunately we are all locked in our homes, deprived. comforting intimacy. Sorry singletons!
So what do we do?
Are we uninstalling the plethora of apps that make short-lived sexual encounters easier? Or are we moving on to the next best thing – virtual connections?
However, while many of us may be self-proclaimed flirtatious dudes who know how to sext to exchange nudes, the best of us come off when it comes to having sex on the phone.
But don’t worry, these simple tips will help you let go of your inhibitions, better prepare yourself, and indulge in more fulfilling virtual sex.
Start by sexting
Great sex, whether in person or virtual, begins with excitement and anticipation and nothing creates anticipation better than swapping these awesome smoky emoji laced one-liners with your potential date on these. dating apps.
Get in the mood by asking standard questions like âHey sup, are you in bed?â, âNeed some company?â, âHow do I want to be by your sideâ! etc.
Once the sexting becomes real and reciprocal, move on to more direct confessions likeâ¦ “I’m so excited”, “I’m starting to have a hard time”, “Do you mind making a video call?” If she / he says yes, get things done from there. (always remember that explicit consent is essential)
And don’t forget to plug those earbuds in, because you definitely want your hands to be busy doing better things than adjusting this phone to match the length of your earbuds.
Treat your virtual wedding ring like your in-person sexual encounter and prepare yourself accordingly.
Make an effort. Take a shower ahead of time to feel fresh and show yourself with messy wet hair to ignite your date. Trim your pubic hair or chest hair if that’s what it takes to lift you up to the height.
Use a spray
The whole point of phone sex is for fun and not to focus on the other person’s pleasure or satisfaction. The pleasure you have is, literally, in your hands.
So, maximize your virtual connection experience by maximizing your erection. Opt for a numbing spray to prolong your orgasm. It will improve your overall experience, and for all you know, it might inspire the other person to experiment as well.
Pop a pill
If you are feeling nervous about the situation in which you are on a video call, try taking a pill that boosts endurance or relaxes the nerves.
Go for something natural made from herbs. These pills are designed to help increase blood circulation, relax your nerves, and act as an aphrodisiac. Most importantly, it can give you back the confidence you need to let go of your inhibitions and indulge in a rewarding virtual sex experience.
If you doubt the idea of ââtaking a pill, try aromatherapy. Put a few drops of lavender oil in your aroma diffuser and let yourself be tempted by a scented atmosphere. Lavender helps relax your mind and may help relieve performance anxiety.
You can also go for a lavender oil massage, take a drop in your palm and gently massage it over your body while self-stimulating on the spots.
Wear tight-fitting underwear
What foreplay is in a real sexual encounter, getting rid of your clothes layer by layer is done in a virtual connection. There is an exciting feeling of palpable mystique in taking your clothes off one by one and watching someone do it for you.
So, do not show up without wearing anything during a sexual date on the phone, create a mystery around your body, wear comfortable and easy-to-remove clothes and especially the right underwear.
Go for a well-fitting underwear that makes your crotch more desirable and creates titillating rubs, in case you want to tease your date by stroking your penis without removing the underwear.
Provide good lighting
Set the mood for your date by turning on the bedside lamps and light a few candles for an effect.
Warm white lights not only create a welcoming atmosphere, but also help you conceal your scars if that’s what’s keeping you from undressing.
Or take a concealer or BB cream and dab some on your scars to feel more confident with Facetiming.
Most importantly, keep it real
Also, a sex date over the phone may require you to have a way with words.
Sweeten the tone, feel free to let out your moans, discuss your fantasies, and laugh if you feel like it.
But remember, don’t let the moment get killed by trying to sound too smart, just keep it real. Nothing is more appealing than letting your partner know that you are really horny.
Whether you resort to phone sex to get rid of your dry spell or just to make things awkward with your partner from a distance, phone sex can be more exciting and satisfying than you actually think.
But, it’s important to build a degree of trust before you go all out with a complete stranger. It would be nice to set some limits in advance as to whether or not screen capture or screen recording content is allowed, things that you are comfortable with or not.
And remember that if at any point you start to feel uncomfortable, you can stop, without feeling guilty, because like we said, a virtual connection is more about making yourself happy than anyone else.
So now release what has held you back and go ahead with caution, confidence, and a lot of enthusiasm.