Yes, a perineal orgasm is a real thing and it’s amazing
Let’s venture into pleasure-filled and uncharted territory, namely the perineum: a nerve-rich pleasure center with enormous orgasmic potential.
Known colloquially as the “spot”, “gooch” or “grundle”, the perineum is the area between the anus and the scrotum or vagina. Massaging the perineum can enhance other forms of sexual stimulation and may even lead to orgasm on its own.
“It’s a great option to add to edging, especially because it can help engorge all the necessary body parts,” says Dr. Evan Goldstein, DO, Founder and CEO of Tailor-made surgerya leading private practice specializing in sexual health and wellness, and co-founder of the sexual care brand future method.
According to Dr. Carlton Thomas, MD, who offers sexual health tips on his TikTok and Instagram accounts, perineum stimulation is especially enjoyable for people with prostate cancer. “While the [prostate] can be achieved internally, externally, firm pressure on the perineum can also stimulate the prostate on the other side,” he explains.
How to have a perineal orgasm
You might be wondering how come you’ve never heard of perineal pleasure or perineal orgasms before. Given the inconsistencies in sex education across the country, many of us aren’t fully aware of our pleasure centers or even our own anatomy.
For cisgender men in particular, stigma might prevent exploration of areas beyond the penis. According to Dr. Goldstein, perineal play is difficult for some men to get used to, but once you try it, you might find it relaxing.
“In a culture where most people are type A or want more control over their destiny, [perineum stimulation] is a great way to realign yourself with what’s important,” says Dr. Goldstein. “You deserve this pleasure.”
Are you ready to experience all your perineum has to offer? Let’s get into the fun stuff.
Start exploring on your own.
Before bringing a partner into the mix, it’s a good idea to explore your perineum on your own. This way you can identify the types of sensations you like.
“[The perineum] is like a spider’s web of muscles that support the pelvic floor,” says Dr. Goldstein. “They all converge with each other into a single unit. That said, light pressure along or against the belly of the muscle is a great way to start.
After using your fingers to apply gentle pressure for a while, Dr. Thomas recommends trying different forms of digital stimulation. “Some prefer the sensual tickle of a light touch, while others prefer a deeper form of pressure with a light rubbing motion,” he says.
Once you find a feeling that makes you feel good, keep going! You can simply focus on your perineum or you can add other forms of stimulation, such as penile fondling or anal penetration with your fingers or a butt plug.
Even if you don’t reach orgasm through stimulation of the perineum alone, applying some pressure to the area can help bring you closer to orgasm. Dr. Goldstein explains that massaging the perineum improves blood flow to the pelvic area, which can lead to stronger erections. It also draws prostatic fluid into the prostate and encourages sperm movement, which begins the process of preparing your body for orgasm.
Use a sex toy.
If you’re satisfied with what your hands have to offer, keep up the great work! But if your perineum needs more intense stimulation, using a vibrator can up your fun game.
Dr. Thomas suggests holding a simple external vibrator, such as a bullet vibrator or wand, against your perineum. Start on the lightest setting. Then increase the intensity that works best for you.
For even more stimulation (and potentially hands-free orgasms), opt for a double prostate and perineum massager. Bruno by Lelo and the vector from We-Vibe are both vibrating anal plugs that also stimulate the perineum. You can operate both of these toys with a remote control (the Vector even syncs with an app!), so you don’t have to reach out and fumble with buttons. Don’t forget to use lube!
Try it with a partner.
Once you’re comfortable exploring your perineum on your own, try it with a partner. You can wear a dual prostate and perineal massager while you ride together, or you can have your partner gently stroke, lick, or press against your perineum while you kiss, P-in-V sex, receive oral sex, or do something else fun and hot for both of you. Letting a partner explore this part of your body can be an incredibly vulnerable experience, so it’s important to try this with a partner you trust.
“The goal is just to let your body completely relax and give in to that submission,” says Dr. Goldstein. “Having a seasoned partner who fully understands skin and muscle sensitivities will dramatically increase your chances of having that hands-free orgasm.”
What does a perineal orgasm feel like?
Since pelvic floor massage stimulates the prostate from outside the body, a pelvic floor orgasm is technically a prostate orgasm. Some people who have had prostate orgasms say they are longer, more intense, and more “full body” than orgasms from penile stimulation alone.
Don’t get out of shape if you don’t reach orgasm the first few times you try pelvic floor stimulation. According to Dr. Thomas, pelvic floor play is about the journey, not the destination. “Not everyone can achieve orgasm through perineal stimulation alone, and most people require simultaneous penile stimulation to orgasm,” he explains. “But it’s so much fun to try.”
If you can’t orgasm through the perineum or don’t like that kind of stimulation, that’s perfectly normal too. Every body is different and not everyone has the same orgasms.
“As you get more comfortable, you can explore other sensations that can enhance your overall experience and, of course, your orgasm,” says Dr. Goldstein. “Smile, sit back and enjoy.”
Via Men’s Health